During this insightful session, Kristina Schellinski and Ard Nieuwenbroek explored the psychological challenges faced by replacement children, particularly in relation to self-esteem and identity. The discussion highlighted the wide range of experiences among these children — from those idealized as “golden children” to those who felt invisible, unwanted, and unloved. The speakers explained how being born into a grieving family could deeply affect a child’s sense of self-worth from the earliest stages of life, often carrying into adulthood. They emphasized that therapeutic encounters could offer a turning point, as replacement children might meet a therapist who truly sees and values them. This recognition was described as a crucial first step toward self-understanding. However, not all replacement children were ready to accept such recognition. Some resisted it due to the overwhelming nature of their early losses, while others had long sought validation, often encountering resistance from those around them — including family members, partners, and even therapists. By examining the narcissistic needs of replacement children through the lens of traumatic deprivation, the speakers offered a framework for understanding their deep longing for love and acknowledgment. Yet, they concluded that the most vital step in the healing process was the replacement child’s own recognition of their needs and the intrinsic value of their life. The evening provided valuable insights for therapists, caregivers, and anyone working with or identifying as a replacement child, fostering deeper empathy and understanding of this often overlooked experience.